Today you can choose integrity and authenticity

You can only really control yourself!  No matter how others act you can choose peace to deal with them.  You may not get what you think you want but you will know that you chose fairness and honesty without creating more separation in your relationship.  If you feel good about your part in the dealing of the conflict, then you really do "win"...  and guess what, this applies to your dealings with your kids too!